This post is based on what standards and expectations you should have in any relationship as a Christian! Whether it's a relationship with friends, family, or you are single! Any relationship as a Christian should be based on God and centered around him and that's where all your values and morals should come from and before you get in any kind of relationship you need to be sure you have God in your own relationship between you and him because that's important it helps to know who you are and what you're looking for and what you want! "Through Jesus everyone who believes is put in right relationship with God. "(Acts of the Apostles 13:39 CEB)
**These are not in any order!**
1. Christ-Centered
Any relationship you're in, as a Christian, should defiantly be a God-centered relationship. If you don't have God in your relationship, (when you're relationship gets rough) you won't have anything to keep you together! Also if one person in the relationship has a better relationship with God and wants to be able to talk about God in their relationship and feels they can't so much, it will be hard to understand each other and their morals because they're not on the same page spiritually.
2. Live realistically.
When you think about it, we all have that celebrity crush-Megan Fox, Johnny Depp, or even Alex Pettyfer. These crushes are the ones we look towards as role models but even more then that. We start to compare everyday people to these impossible stars. We live in fantasy worlds. Do yourself, and your partner a favor, live realistically. Don't compare your significant other to a character. Love them for who they are and respect that. Trust me no one can live up to Zac Efron standards! Did you get that? NO ONE. Because he is just one person who is himself. Let your mate be themselves too. Also you want that fairy tale ending? Guess what. Those are only movies. But you can find true bliss in the arms of Jesus. Refer to #1 with that. :))
#3. Have morals and values.
This has a lot to do with how you view yourself. "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (1 Peter 3:3, 4 NIV)" This are great verses to kind of tell you where beauty comes from-within. With that being said tell your mate what you hold for yourself. For example if you don't find it moral to drink hold your ground. (I don't thinks it immoral to drink if your of age and doing it responsibly. Just an example.) You should be able to talk freely about that and any other values you may have or they have. Remember to listen and take what they have to say into consideration.
#4. Have relationship goals
So many times in teen relationships you see people dating just to date. Personally I don't see the problem in being single, but hey. If you can't see yourself married to this person, why date them now? A great role model of mine, Jarrid Wilson, once posted "Not ready for a serious relationship? Then stop dating. You're confusing hearts and hurting souls." I think he put it quite well. Have goals. Talk it out. See what kind of future is possible between the two of you. The unknown is not a spot to be in.
5. Your Body is your temple
If your in a relationship and the person your with is trying to make you give into temptations (like sex) and you just don't want too cause you respect yourself, your religion and you're just not ready, you tell that person NO!! If they don't respect you,do not give in. That just means that person is wrong for you. Always remember your body is your temple of the Holy Spirit as it said in the bible! Never let anyone make you feel bad for what you believe!
"Don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and who was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourselves but to God; he bought you for a price. So use your bodies for God's glory" (1 Corinthians 6:19, 20 GNT)
So as you can see we have named 5 standards and expectations that are needed in a relationship on the road to success! Take these to heart and really pray about them.
If you have any questions or any more standards or expectations you've found that have worked feel free to leave us a comment !
Thanks for all the love and support ! ~Savannah & Morgan!
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